Wednesday, October 24, 2012

What She Really Wants When She Says, 'Nothing.'

It actually doesn't take much to see her smile again.
Most women are not "crazy." But we are for, damn sure, emotional.


She makes sure to rustle the bed in the morning as she gets up, then gives you a curt "goodbye."

She walks right by you in the hallway, then silently busies herself with kitchen chores.

"Want to go to a movie?" you ask. "Hm," she says indifferently. "Sure."

So what do you do to turn her frown upside down? I'm telling you, men: If you ask, "what's wrong?" or keep prodding with questions, you'll just get more of this emotion. If you grab her, and hug her, and make her laugh and feel loved and safe, that little storm cloud will clear right up.

One of my favorite authors, David Deida, calls women "oceans;" our moods ebbing and flowing like the tide with the moon. Most of the time, we don't have the slightest idea what's causing us to feel this way; we're that sensitive to energy. A woman's unbridled emotion can be both beautiful, and scary, but at least it's honest, and that should be celebrated. And when you, men, celebrate her emotions by making her feel loved through them, she will find you unbelievably irresistable.

Says Dieda:

"One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax".

So next time your woman is brooding, ask what's wrong. But if (when) you get the "I don't know" or the unconvincing "nothing," surprise her with humor, a compliment, a gift - even cop a feel, and you'll be received with the other side of her emotional spectrum: Beaming, beautiful LOVE.

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